How much affection is good enough? Many would say 'the more the better' but is it really so?
There is also a saying that "You get what you give". My question is upto what extent. Take the example of pampered children. You show more love to them and after a certain point they start asking for things which are really not good for them. If you refuse, you easily offend them and then the care shown by you becomes a weapon for them so that they can stretch your feelings to get those not-so-good things done. Once this method works, they try to deploy this again and again. But after sometime you realize you have set a bad precedent and that demands of not-so-good is turning into worse. You think you should correct this but then it becomes either too late (when you can't really correct the child) or you have to take extra tough measures to bring it to the right course. Both the cases have the potential to backfire your very relationship which you once started to build so lovingly. I think the case is not much different in the case of relationship amongst grown-ups although not upto the extent in children.
So before you give that 'extra' bit of care, love or affection, Think Again. Is it actually going to strengthen your relationship in long term!!?
P.S. Please do comment. Would like to know more perspectives on it.. Thanks
There is always a thin line demarcating the two side - right and wrong. More often we tend to cross the line for the wrong side as we worry about the strain in the relationship that would be caused by saying "no". But that the most important thing in life to know how and where to say "No".
ReplyDeletePampering children does not spoil them but not saying "No" spoils them. If the children are made to realize the value of things they are on the right path. Thus affection is always good but when you lose the sense of right and wrong and cross the line, it becomes slow poison.
I could not agree more with you that the importance of saying NO at the right time.. sometimes you tend to ignore the right or wrong to make someone happy by saying yes which triggers the slow poison!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the wonderful comment..
Nobody is perfect and everybody changes wid time.Dont apply logic in relations.
ReplyDeleteAcceptance is the key to happiness.Enjoy the ups n downs of life frnd. :))